[ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ] within certain stages. On the following pages you will learn about the stages, how they work, and when to use the various tools. In other words, you are about to receive a big payoff from all you've learned. 135 The self-discipline process occurs in 4 stages Decision Preparation Action Completion/Maintenance Important: You need to satisfy the requirements of each stage before attempting the next stage. Otherwise, you are setting yourself up for unnecessary difficulties. By far, the most common mistake people make when attempting to use self-discipline is this: They select a goal and start at the Action Stage of the self-discipline process, before doing the necessary groundwork. That's like trying to build a penthouse before building the first floor. I repeat, starting toward your goal at the Action Stage, before taking specific steps in the Decision Stage and the Preparation Stage, is putting the cart before the horse; sure, you might eventually drive your goods to market but not without driving yourself and your horse half crazy. You will make self-discipline a lot easier for yourself by doing things in a certain order. Believe me, this approach will save you a lot of time and trouble no matter what type of goals you choose, whether you are starting a business, losing weight, or finally getting the garage cleared out. Now, let's take a look at the first stage of the self-discipline process: Decision. 136 15. The Decision Stage Self-Discipline in 10 days Decision Stage As the name implies, this first stage is where you choose a goal and solidify that choice. There is more to this process than you might think. On the other hand, there is nothing difficult or complicated about it. And while the steps in this stage are quite easy to do, they are an extremely important part of the self-discipline process. Failure to take the necessary steps here will usually result in self-discipline difficulty at the Action Stage. During the Decision Stage your purpose is to build a psycho- logical foundation, a commitment that will carry you through all the steps (hourly, daily, weekly, monthly) that your goal requires. A solid psychological foundation will empower you to deal with all the doubts, fears, and self-defeating beliefs that Hyde will send your way (hourly, daily, weekly, monthly). Ironically, the more important your goal is to you, the more Hyde will try to keep you from going after it. For Hyde, you see, an important goal appears frightening and difficult. Because of this, you will need to be aware of Hyde every step of the way. Self-discipline is easier when you know exactly what you are up against. You need to realize that every coin has two sides. Yes, you can have a clean garage, but you will no longer have the stuff that currently fills it. Yes, you can have your own business, but you will no longer have the security of your job with the post office. Sure, if you stop drinking at the local tavern you will have better health and more money, but you might lose the company of your drinking buddies. In other words, you will always have to give up something in order to get something. And while you consciously want certain things, you might subconsciously not want to accept the other side of the coin, the letting go of certain other things. I repeat: In order to get what you want, you have to give up something else. 138 15. Decision Stage Give up what? You need to answer that question before you go into action on your goal. A few examples of what you might need to give up: time, money, physical comfort, emotional comfort, security, leisure, a personal relationship, other goals (for now), self-image, parental approval, societal approval, etc., etc., etc. Important: One of Hyde's favorite tricks is to have you believe that you must completely (All or Nothing) give up a certain something that you might not have to give up completely in order to attain your goal. Sometimes you will be able to find ways to keep what you have and still get what you want, sometimes not. Sometimes you can make compromises, some- times not. These types of decisions need to be made consciously whenever you choose a goal, because each goal has a dark side that operates subconsciously. Hyde, the side of you that doesn't want self-discipline, will use your subconscious concerns like emotional rope to tie you to Delayism, Defeatism, Cynicism, well, you know the rest. In the Decision Stage you need to bring all of your subcon- scious concerns to the surface in order to deal with them, so they won't ambush you at the Action Stage. Conversely, when you consciously explore both sides of your goal, "getting" vs. "giving up," and you are clear about it, then you can deal with Hyde from a solid position. If, however, you don't bring both sides of the picture into focus, you will be dragging an invisible anchor. You won't see what keeps you from moving forward. 139 Self-Discipline in 10 days Exercise: All you need to do here is write down your goal across the top of a sheet of paper. Then on the left side of the paper list the benefits of pursuing and achieving your [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ] zanotowane.pl doc.pisz.pl pdf.pisz.pl blacksoulman.xlx.pl